The Advantages of Been Alone

‘Alone’ without been ‘Lonely’

Have you ever noticed how some people beat and knock their heads for some silly reasons? And do you know what these reasons are? ‘Why am I not in a relationship?’, ‘I need to be in a relationship like most of my friends are’ if you fall under this category of persons, then I have something to tell you.

In our society today, people who are alone are termed to be living a lonely and solitary life, but that is not it. The truth is that you can be ‘Alone’ without been ‘Lonely’ per say. When I was not into any relationship, I wasn’t lonely and can’t say I was because I do spend most of my time doing what I love best like surfing the net, reading articles from great blogs and chatting with friends and even trying to build myself up spiritually. The fact remains is that I spend enough time been alone and that has helped me. I want to advice, when you are alone, you can have all the time in the world to spend to your own benefit like doing most of the things that you love doing. You can also spend the times of been alone to learn some new skills and make real money out of it. Most persons who are alone make themselves lonely by not doing anything that would profit them. If you aren’t doing anything profitable when you are alone, is it when you get into a relationship that you will have enough time for that? Your free time should be spent wisely and instead of thinking of why you don’t find yourself in any relationship, take that time to build yourself. Once that time is lost, you may not get it back again; so learn to spend your time wisely when you are alone.

You get it all wrong when you cry and feel bitter that there is no special person in your life, but have you taken your time to check some errors that needs to be fixed in your life? Believe me, there are still some grasses left that needs to be cleared off and you need to think more of clearing them. For instance, you are putting up some excess weight and there is a need to fix that; that calls for your attention. Been alone will give you the space to fix that by doing regular exercise in the gym and going on diet that will help you to bounce back to shape. Or there are particular books that you need to read; when you are alone, you will have enough time to read them and feel satisfied that you’ve read them.  If you aren’t satisfied when you are alone, you can’t be satisfied when you are with someone. Satisfaction comes from within before it is spread to other people.

You may have gotten this notion that everyone in a relationship is happy; that is an error. You will agree with me that the divorce rate worldwide is alarming and this shows to you that virtually 80% ofpeople who are into a relationship are not as happy as you think. There are some relationships you will get into and you will regret ever been born. You will find out that you have just wasted a good number of years with the wrong person. And instead of risking your life in such a deadly relationship, is it not better you stay alone and keep yourself busy doing other important things that will be of great benefit to you.

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Lastly, I want to say this, the time of been alone is the time for you to build yourself up into becoming a better person. Remember, if you must get the right person, then you also need to be ‘right’. During this time, build yourself up in honesty. Dig out some ‘ill-habits’ and try to do away with them. Monitor what you do that seems to be wrong and work on them. If you can’t fish out some of your ‘ill-habits’, ask a close friend to help you out. He/she will be in a position to tell you some ‘ill’ things about you. Are you the angry type? Then you need to take this time out to work on that. Think of what you can do that will place you in the position of been admired by people. Learn some skills that will make you independent and respectful.

Your ‘alone-time’ shouldn’t be ‘lonely’ but useful to you and to that lovely person that will come into your life. You need to take full advantage of that.
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