1 Reason Why You Have a Weak Willpower; Here's A Solution

Having a weak will is often considered "normal" especially when the discussion is about an individual with a phlegmatic temperament. Strong willed individuals will be admired for succeeding at difficult tasks. We adore them for having the ability to pull through tough situations. While those with little to no will power just assume willpower is something some people get and some don't.

This belief deters them fr

om ever attempting to change, or to find the source of their lack of inner resilience. Social and psychological factors can nurture your willpower. In our our adolescent years, we develop these characteristics. Contributing factors such as home environment and the strength or integrity of the family structure can all affect us.

Psychological Inhibitors to Willpower Development

An individuals lack of will power can be traced to to the events surrounding his or her formative ages. It stems from believing that being strong willed or pushing for what you want will disturb a balance. You feel the fear of creating an unsafe environment which is fear of consequence. As adults however, this belief is harmful and slowly causes us to become self-distracted toward our goals, while our self-confidence begins to erode.

These damaging thoughts and emotions stem from negative memories. Even though you may not directly think about these memories, or even connect your negativity with them. They are subconsciously lingering and creating the foundation for your lack of willpower. Think of these memories as invisible factories that are producing food for negative thought on a continuous basis.

Willpower is essential for success in life. It is necessary to be able to set your sights on a goal and overcome obstacles and hardships in order to achieve that goal. If you are the type of person that feels failure is inevitable and no matter how hard you try you can't win, this isn't a coincidence.

The world is not against you; in fact the problem you are having stems from your wrong perception of the world, that is your true enemy.

This is due to your subconscious viewing every difficult situation as an impassable obstacle and causing you to give up long before you have truly failed. You don't have the chance to succeed, because your own mind is sabotaging your efforts.

These occurrences of negativity have the power to undermine your best intentions and most straightforward attempts at success and they often do. By experiencing these self-destructive occurrences you risk your focus and ultimately your life goals.

This inevitable failure is caused by the deep rooted problem which caused you to view pushing yourself toward your goals as unsafe, while still a child.

What To Do About It

One way to overcome the frustration of  seeing every little challenge as humongous obstacle is to tap into your willpower, cultivate and believe in your ability to become your own messiah. To do this you must understand the underlying problem which caused this lack of willpower.

Taking a very close look, negative emotions affect your will. Impulses and thoughts orchestrate your actions from deep within your mind. Your mind creates these images and scenarios because you have trained or allowed it to do so over time. It has become a default move each time you need to make a decision.

Many techniques to prevent these tendencies exist, such as meditation. They help to deflect negative thought patterns from taking over your mind. However, few people ever question whether it is normal, or, necessary to experience this negativity at all. In all honesty, the answer is no; these negative tendencies don't exist within you as a natural state.

As a baby, you reach for the fire and harmful things, you pick up stuff from the floor and stick it in your mouth. You crawl all over the backyard filled with insects and because you do not know fear.

Toddlers ask questions about everything and want to be superman. That is our natural state, an incorruptible will.  We are all born pure and fearless, but repeated intakes of negative information will later infiltrate our thought process along the line.

Finally

What if you could deal with these memories permanently, by putting your factories of negativity out of business forever? You can, and easily.

Once you have realized that your negativity is a result of your own fear, you will feel a wave of relief. This relief is accompanied by mental resilience, thought clarity and a new found will that is unshakable.

Even better is the fact that, you can do it all on your own without ever employing an expert. You also do not have to learn outside techniques like meditation. Putting your mind to work can help you in successfully acquiring unshakable inner strength. This can pave way for you to experience success in your future pursuits.

Adoga Godwin is a inspirational writer and art educator who loves to help other improve on themselves. He writes at http://hiphophead.com.ng